How Do You Define Love?




A Relationship With Love

With much grown acceptance, I have realized that my perspective is constantly shifting- regarding holistic growth, wellness, relationships, and love.

Delving into the glorified topic of relationships and love, it is fair to say that you learn as you go- picking up your likes and dislikes, and factoring in your morals and beliefs. Hearts break, your storage of love-filled and love-less memories build up, and finally you are left with truths of what you believe is to create a “better next time.” As of now, the most important factors of a long lasting relationship are the presence of love, the enduring efforts made, and trust. These are my findings. Consideration for each other’s well being is a huge part in it as well.

What is best for both individuals? Does your presence in each other’s lives take a toll on your individuality, or does it encourage you to progress forward and grow?

It is incredibly common for most to be in love with the idea of being in love- sharing happiness with another individual and creating a bond that no one else could imagine. We tend to put others first before ourselves, and forget that each of us are living our own gifted lives before tending to the happiness of another. Your personal development of happiness and wellness, above all, should be a top priority before creating a lasting love. This love is the result of two individuals who strive to become better as separate people, with acceptance of each other’s progress as a step towards building a strong relationship.

Love, in it’s many forms, is a twisted yet essential part of life that is defined on your own terms. How do you define love? How do you wish to receive love?

As always, thanks for stopping by.

Rachaelle


Living a Meaningful Life: Redefine Your Story

WHAT IS A MEANINGFUL LIFE?

It’s not just about trying to be happy.

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“Redefine your story by redemption, growth,  and love.”

From Emily Esfahani Smith’s Ted Talk, “There’s More to Life Than Being Happy” 

Considering the perpetual society we live in, we tend to neglect the present moment and instead constantly strive for the ideal future. Admittedly, this realization only came to mind recently when I experienced loss in life- a true test of purpose and meaning. I had previously lived my life constantly working and going to class, saving up and striving towards a glorified future. This future consisted of a specified money goal, a change in career and location, and pure happiness. With only the future and a seemingly unattainable bliss in mind, I paid no attention to my current mental well being or the state of happiness I was in. Emily Esfahani Smith’s lecture, “There’s More to Life Than Being Happy” truly hit home as I could relate to the bold pillars of a meaningful life.

4 PILLARS OF MEANING

1. BELONGING – develop relationships

2. PURPOSE – focus on the moments leading to your goals

3. TRANSCENDENCE – What moments bring you existential happiness

4. STORYTELLING – Redefine your story

“Happiness comes and goes… Having meaning gives you something to hold on to.”

There is more to life than being happy. Smith discussed the 4 major pillars of a meaningful life to be: belonging, purpose, transcendence, and storytelling.

With this structure in mind, I became aware of the imbalance of these 4 factors and prioritized my efforts on having a sole purpose in life, which was to earn money and a degree. Money and a degree were the gateway to happiness, and thus a meaningful life. Truthfully, this thought still lingers, but it would be an unrealistic expectation to digest the grandness of the meaning of life at once. I believe Smith’s 4 pillars provides an ethical resolution to defining the meaning of life, yet it lacks the difficulty of finding a balance between each.

As I noted before, I prioritized having a purpose compared to building valuable relationships or redefining my important experiences to change the direction of my life. Part of this incessant drive towards a better future led me to forget the present moment and life that was passing in front of me. I had lost chances and time in my life to find happiness with the situation I was in. After experiencing loss, I noticed that life is shorter than expected and the time we have is valuable. Despite the feeling of unfulfillment in my life now, I should continue to cherish the other aspects such as developing relationships or shaping a new perspective on life. Valuing the time in the present moment and changing the way you look at your current situation, whether it is bad or good, is how to live a meaningful life.

 

As always, thanks for stopping by.

Rachaelle

#FASHIONFINDS // PINK PLASTIC BABEZ

Instagram is always with the latest fashion trends and hip boutiques. I am so inspired and impressed by all the individuals who turn their start ups into hugely successful fashion empires throughout social media! Here's an example of one.

Instagram – @pinkplasticbabez
Show these ladies some love & Shop NOW!

SHOP MY FAVORITES:

As always, thanks for stopping by.
– Rachaelle

IT’S A WRAP! SUMMER 2017

Well, not just yet. Just a few more weeks until the beloved Summer 2017 comes to a closing. Here are my tips to soak up the sun.



Go out and do something you've always wanted to do!

As always, thanks for stopping by.
– Rachaelle

*Sushi pictured is from Osawa Shabu Shabu & Sushi! Located in Pasadena, CA. Definitely drop by if you're in the area.

JULY FAVORITES


Welcome back, everyone! I have been super inactive on my blog lately, mainly because it’s been a sluggish and truthfully lazy couple of months. But I’m back and with a new theme altogether! I hope you all like it. With all that said, here’s what I loved in July!

FOOD :

  • Kang Ho Dong Baekjeong (Temple City, CA) — Newly opened KBBQ spot in TC! Kang Ho Dong has several other locations from Koreatown to Rowland Heights, but to save the gas and stop the hunger, we decided to drop by this local spot. We dropped by on a weekday for dinner, and surprisingly it was pretty busy with a wait! All of the servers were attentive to each of their tables. Truthfully, I thought the quality of the meat was satisfying, but the bill left a hole in my stomach… haha! A bit pricey for KBBQ. Definitely will try again though! Perhaps the other locations.

  • Amazon Prime Fresh — Having groceries delivered to your door is probably the coolest discovery ever. I’m still amazed. That is all.

  • Elote — This glorious treasure is hard to come by! On the way to dinner with my brothers, we caught a lady selling these bad boys on the street for $2 each! What a steal. 10/10.

FASHION :

  • LITHE COLLECTIVE — This minimal yet chic shop is back with the cutest collection of home goods and accessories for you to splurge on. Their Rattan bags are a must have for the summer! I am so impressed by this quaint collection. Check out their instagram (@lithecollective) as well as their online boutique where they’re featuring a giveaway to kickstart their return!


  • Urban Outfitters off shoulder dress
  • Faithfull The Brand off shoulder dress

MUSIC :

  • RIP – Olivia O’Brien
  • Gilligan – DRAM
  • Bellyache – Billie Eilish (Marian Hill Remix)
  • Coming Out Strong – Future
  • Don’t Knock On My Door – Tdot illdude
  • Modern Flame – Emmit Fenn
  • Numb – 21 Savage

Thank you all for your continuous support and love! Looking forward to reading your feedback and favorites in the comments. I’ll be back soon with another post! *Trying to be more consistent….*

As always, thanks for stopping by.
– Rachaelle

THE ONLY LOVE YOU NEED

I love both sushi and bread, but my love for family definitely surpasses all the carbs I consume.

We forget that there are so many types of love to celebrate (daily)! The love that we often neglect, however, is the love you provide for yourself. Self-love is what allows you to respect and take care of your mind and body, to embrace your faulty ideas, and to eventually be open to sharing that love with others. 

Happy Valentine’s Day! #VDAY2017

MICHELLE


Normally I post pictures of myself, and I am fully aware there is a lack of variety in this blog so far. Today I thought I would push the boat out and open up my trusty portfolio! I’m still trying to build my photography knowledge, but for now I thought I would share with you a photo I took recently. Featured here today is my incredibly caring and beautiful roommate. 

Amidst financial aid scrambling and work stress, in our enclosed box of a dorm room, there is quite a bit of exchanging of ideas and talking about random life bits. We may be two hippies at times, but one of the topics we always come back to is confidence and self love. Feeling empowerment through the love you provide for yourself. On the daily, confidence is mistaken as being conceited or self absorbed. Society has come so far as to create the conclusion that posting pictures of yourself must mean that you are way too into yourself. Do pictures fully amount to the person you are? 

This is Michelle. So far, Michelle has lived 18 years of life with an open mind, endless faith, immeasurable joy, and growing wisdom. Michelle has experienced and received love, and unknowingly shares her love every single day with everyone she greets. Love is not limited by a single definition. It would be foolish to believe there is only one type of love. However, the most important love she receives is from her own heart. Self love is what allows her to respect and take care of her mind and body each day, to prepare for the future, and to have the confidence to feel beautiful– inside and out. This is Michelle, the most kind and optimistic human being I know, and I am so pleased to share this photo with you. 

As always, thank you for stopping by. 

– Rachaelle

Everything is Temporary

It’s pessimistic and quite strange to think that everything is temporary.

But lately I’ve realized it’s childish and close minded to rely on certain things or people for happiness. We look to these things for fulfillment– and for varying periods of times we do experience this satisfaction– but naturally and with time, these things fail to make us happy. Disheartening as it is, it’s natural as we grow and discover our likes and dislikes on this extensive journey through life. Everything is temporary. Whether it’s losing interest in certain hobbies or straying away from people you love, each period in your life is blessed with few moments that bring happiness to your life. Yet as we keep moving forward, we tend to leave these things behind. And there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s a nostalgic and pleasing warmth when you rediscover and return to something you once loved. 
As nothing is forever and everything is temporary, this does not mean that there are no constants in life. Though sometimes inconsistent, we are blessed with close friends, loving family, and health. They will always be there for you– your source of happiness when all else fails. (That is, if you are surrounded with the right people and you care for your body… But that’s a whole other blog post) 

As always, thanks for stopping by. 

– Rachaelle