Living a Meaningful Life: Redefine Your Story

WHAT IS A MEANINGFUL LIFE?

It’s not just about trying to be happy.

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“Redefine your story by redemption, growth,  and love.”

From Emily Esfahani Smith’s Ted Talk, “There’s More to Life Than Being Happy” 

Considering the perpetual society we live in, we tend to neglect the present moment and instead constantly strive for the ideal future. Admittedly, this realization only came to mind recently when I experienced loss in life- a true test of purpose and meaning. I had previously lived my life constantly working and going to class, saving up and striving towards a glorified future. This future consisted of a specified money goal, a change in career and location, and pure happiness. With only the future and a seemingly unattainable bliss in mind, I paid no attention to my current mental well being or the state of happiness I was in. Emily Esfahani Smith’s lecture, “There’s More to Life Than Being Happy” truly hit home as I could relate to the bold pillars of a meaningful life.

4 PILLARS OF MEANING

1. BELONGING – develop relationships

2. PURPOSE – focus on the moments leading to your goals

3. TRANSCENDENCE – What moments bring you existential happiness

4. STORYTELLING – Redefine your story

“Happiness comes and goes… Having meaning gives you something to hold on to.”

There is more to life than being happy. Smith discussed the 4 major pillars of a meaningful life to be: belonging, purpose, transcendence, and storytelling.

With this structure in mind, I became aware of the imbalance of these 4 factors and prioritized my efforts on having a sole purpose in life, which was to earn money and a degree. Money and a degree were the gateway to happiness, and thus a meaningful life. Truthfully, this thought still lingers, but it would be an unrealistic expectation to digest the grandness of the meaning of life at once. I believe Smith’s 4 pillars provides an ethical resolution to defining the meaning of life, yet it lacks the difficulty of finding a balance between each.

As I noted before, I prioritized having a purpose compared to building valuable relationships or redefining my important experiences to change the direction of my life. Part of this incessant drive towards a better future led me to forget the present moment and life that was passing in front of me. I had lost chances and time in my life to find happiness with the situation I was in. After experiencing loss, I noticed that life is shorter than expected and the time we have is valuable. Despite the feeling of unfulfillment in my life now, I should continue to cherish the other aspects such as developing relationships or shaping a new perspective on life. Valuing the time in the present moment and changing the way you look at your current situation, whether it is bad or good, is how to live a meaningful life.

 

As always, thanks for stopping by.

Rachaelle

Reaching Your Goals: How to Stay Positive and Have Inevitable Success

Cultivate your passions, strive for success. Surround yourself with uplifting people who are inspired to consistently work hard.

Recently been feeling motivated by uplifting creatives who work hard towards cultivating their passions and goals. Success seems unattainable at times, but when you surround yourself with positive people you’ll find that it is inevitable. Cheesy, but it only gets better from here.

As always, thanks for stopping by.

Rachaelle

I NEED A BREAK! 3 Tips to Recharging and Resting Your Mind

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Hope you are all enjoying your 3 day weekend before it’s back to work! I’ve had quite the relaxing weekend spent at home, recharging for the upcoming week. This past week involved a huge focus on mental health and glorifying solitude. Often, when things go wrong I turn to work to keep myself occupied. I block out my feelings and keep moving forward. Don’t get me wrong, moving forward is essentially what is best, but not allowing myself to digest emotions and feelings in the present is not the way to go! Shaping your mind and allowing yourself the time to process feelings is a must, so here are my top 3 tips on how I rest my mind and recharge.

1. DISCONNECT YOURSELF FROM SOCIAL MEDIA

Honestly, I love Instagram. 100%. Hands down, it is my favorite and most frequently used. I’m obsessed. Often I find myself scrolling over the same posts and stories I’ve already seen! Terrible, I know. Soo…. to combat this insane obsession, I picked up a strategy from the amazing photographer and boss queen Jessica Whitaker (https://www.instagram.com/jessicawhitaker) and delete all my social media apps before I go to bed and reinstall them a few hours into the day. Granted, I don’t do this every single day, but I do try my best. Another way is to simply put your phone down when you’re out with loved ones! Be present!

2. UNWIND WITH MUSIC & CLEANING

Okay, this one sounds a bit strange, I know. Who wants to clean?! Me. LOL! I’m a huge supporter of a clean space and working environment. I believe that an organized work space is just a visual motivator for you to continuously maintain things as they are. Whether you work from home or in an office- a less cluttered work space really reflects through your work and attitude. The music part is a bonus… throw on your favorite jams and get to cleaning!

3. HAVE YOUR ALONE TIME

We live in a society where everyone is connected 24/7 through Snapchat, Instagram, Twitter, Facebook- all of it! When I’m lonely I tend to completely immerse myself in all of these platforms… because the beauty of the internet is that you are truly never alone! Although I am grateful to be surrounded by friends and family through social media, it’s necessary to have time alone just to give your mind a rest. Use this time to get work done, watch your favorite show, online shop… whatever makes you happy!

 

And there we have it folks. I really hope these simple tips inspires you to take the time out of your day to really care for your mind and wellness.

As always, thanks for stopping by.

Rachaelle

OUR SPOT: Online Wellness Community and Networking Nook

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Hi everyone! I have been in and out of social media lately, truthfully confused with my personal life and what direction I’m headed in. I constantly picture my future… Living in a house, working a stable job, and just purely happy. Lately the motivation to get there has been fading. I have always been one to neglect certain aspects of my life while I’m focused on another- always trying to find a balance. I feel like once we realize life always has its ups and downs, we should aim to keep moving forward and work with what we have in the present moment.

Create, share, reflect, grow.

All of this being said, I am ecstatic to grow and share my new project with all of you, our special spot. OUR SPOT is an online wellness community and networking nook of creatives that aims to integrate the necessity of caring for mental health into our continuous progress towards our goals and future. Create, share, reflect, grow. This online network will be an environment and safe space for those to share their work and stories, connect with other influencers, and more importantly lift each other up.

Keep close as we develop and create a space that allows us to connect. Join and start sharing!

As always, thanks for stopping by.

*HUGE EXPLODING THANK YOU to my friend Yeab for taking these awesome shots of me. You’re the best! Find more of his work here.

ANNIE, a series





I’ve been incredibly MIA from my blog lately. Truthfully, struggling on the direction and development of my brand but I’m gradually getting there! Learning to produce quality content that I’m truly satisfied with has been challenging, but the process of it all makes me happy. Still making sure to work hard and still have fun. It’s not about finding balance in your life but accepting that there will be ups and downs! Life is unpredictable.

Here are some lovely shots of one of my good friends, Annie! If you see this, I love you and I am grateful for having you around through my hard times.

CREATE WITH PASSION

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Day 7 into 2018 and it has already been an incredible start. I left off 2017 with great friends, both old and new, as well as better work habits that I accumulated throughout the end of the year. I hardly follow any clear cut resolutions but instead set out small, attainable goals. One of the goals is to create with passion, rather than generate frequent posts with less effort. Quality over quantity.


HOW I PLAN TO ACCOMPLISH THIS GOAL

is to focus on my interests and what inspires me. It’s easy to throw out content just to provide you with something to read, but this can become a horrible habit! Hopefully I’ll be able to create content that is interesting and helpful for times in need of fashion and wellness advice!

FINDING A NICHE

has been one of my biggest struggles with blogging, as I have many interests and feel limited if I structure everything into a single category. I am getting to know myself further every day and discovering what I love to share with you or what I don’t quite like. For now, my posts will be related to fashion, photography, wellness, and weekly favorites.

QUALITY OVER QUANTITY

or QUANTITY WITH QUALITY will be my goal for these upcoming months. Granted, I’m sure there will be days where I go MIA, but I am definitely going to try my best to push out more content that I genuinely love and am proud of.


Thank you for sticking with me through another year. Hope you all had an amazing start to 2018. Here’s to growing together!

As always, thanks for stopping by.

Rachaelle

PORTRAIT PHOTOGRAPHY: CHINATOWN

Here are some new portraits from a few days ago, featuring one of my good friends Roanne! We decided to take a drive to Chinatown, Los Angeles since we haven’t been in a while.

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Are you there, God?

We look up to higher beings when we feel like we have lost control or when we can no longer see the future ahead of us. We feel powerless. Admittedly, I have wavering faith in the power that HE has. His love is powerful. We ask for guidance only in desperate times, but fail to appreciate everything he has already shown and provides for us daily. The humor in this is when I prayed and wished for a sign or direction in life today, he literally led me to a sign. Plenty of signs.

There is no sign. Only trust.


As always, thanks for stopping by.

– Rachaelle

WHERE DO YOU SEE YOURSELF IN 5-10 YEARS?

Here is a smidge of work I did this week on the wellness dimensions most important in my life currently, and the role of psychosocial health in relationships.


Most of us are generally in the same stage in life, if not the same age, we all struggle with transitioning and adapting to new changes. Through these daily changes, it is essential to apply all dimensions of health and wellness in order to thoroughly take care of your mind and body. Currently, the occupational and emotional dimensions are the most important in my life. As a transfer student, I am struggling to adapt to new systems and teachings, while working and earning money to pay for school. It’s a tough balance, but the occupational dimension is a huge factor in my life that ensures I push myself at work in order to have savings to pursue an education. In addition, I try to ensure that my time at school does not go to waste. This goes hand in hand with the emotional dimension, because it is often tough to keep a positive and steady outlook on situations that seem unbearable or even impossible.

Hopefully, in 5 to 10 years I will not be as narrow minded as I am now, and try to find my balance in all the wellness dimensions. Finding this steady balance and prioritizing all of the dimensions is what produces a healthy mind and body. In relation, psychosocial health is a key factor when achieving a healthy mind and body. Having friends and family to share your thoughts with allows you to fully express your emotions. As a result, these relationships are bonded further when connecting emotionally.


As always, thanks for stopping by.

Rachaelle

A LOOK BACK ON SUMMER

As always, thanks for stopping by.

– Rachaelle